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Every relationship starts with a decision. What is this decision? Whether or not to keep the other person safe by using words to solve the problems between you.
SLOW DOWN: Safety is a 2-way street, and so if you unilaterally decide to keep someone safe when they have indicated no interest in reciprocating, you will become a martyr/doormat/victim. A "NO to words (dialog)" from the other person at this step means you need to deter them from harming you with their actions.
We often don't know what is safe for both sides of the relationship until we communicate to each other a "YES", or a "NO". Babies sleep or smile to say "YES" and cry to say "NO". Adults use words (with positive or negative valence).
CAUTION: DO NOT PROCEED to the next step until the other person also agrees to keep you safe. Until then they will keep their distance from you. You are not stuck. They'll reach out to you once they are ready to reciprocate.
When a relationship stops being replenishing we usually feel stuck on a "NO". Feeling stuck is a signal that we need to learn more about what it takes to keep getting a "YES" from each other. This type of "NO" actually means "STOP, and TRY SOMETHING ELSE". This type of "NO" is a gift that points us to the next "YES". If you know how have a YES Conversation, it is always cheaper to repair a relationship than to replace it. So learn how to have a YES Conversation.
DESTINATION: This is where you want to get to: where you are enjoying exchanging gifts with each other. Some people even go on to start families together. Others start businesses together. Till death and even beyond: some people pay forward the memory of their Baba, with gifts to their children. The possibilities are endless when you have found a Person who you know deep down wants to keep you safe by solving problems between you with words.